Yesterday, my cousin Celeste posed a question on Facebook about what would be appropriate for her to give her daughter's teacher for each of the 5 days of what I assume was "Teacher Appreciation Week."
I exclaimed, "Five DAYS of "appreciation"????? Are you kidding? I would consider bennies and a paycheck plenty of appreciation! I would consider having a JOB anywhere in California, appreciation!" Then I told her a note and card expressing her thanks for the teacher's efforts, was certainly enough and anything that was expected beyond that was way out of line.
Then she asked if 5 days of appreciation was "industry standard" and that she didn't know because her daughter is in kindergarten and Celeste had no previous experience as a mother of a school aged child.
I just reminded her that she lives in Kalifornia, which meant that her state has a very high population of people who think they are entitled to more than what a paycheck provides, INCLUDING benefits. (Hey Californians, that's how the majority of you vote and why you have one of the highest tax rates in the country when you count property and sales taxes, plus the regulation nightmare anyone who wants to start or maintain a business has to face and endure.)
Then, another cousin piped up, who just happens to be a teacher herself, employed here in Montana, and said that, yes, it WAS industry standard. She then proceeded to suggest that a good idea would be to leave some trays of food in the teacher's lounge or to give things that were consumable because teacher's get a lot of "crap" in the way of gifts.
Where to begin?
Now, I have had kids in school since 1993 and I don't ever remember a teacher appreciation week...ever. Perhaps I have subconsciously ignored it all these years because I refuse to basically genuflect to anyone for doing their JOB! And now, as I am perusing Google images for an Appreciation Banner, I see that you can get custom made ones for Teacher Appreciation Week. I must have been living under a rock to not have protested this idea before now.
Look, there is no question that good teachers are vital to our societal fabric, but so are artists and farmers and nursing home cafeteria workers and flight attendants and janitors and garbage picker-uppers et al, ad nauseum. Some of the aforementioned I would say are probably MORE important than teachers, yet I don't see THEM getting 5 days of appreciation from a grateful public. Take the garbage collector, for instance. I know I would be bitching about them going on strike and be MUCH more inclined to give them whatever they want, than the jock football coach who should have put "Atomic Wedgie Expert" on his resume'.
I wonder, if I put a big stinkin' banner over my front door which announced "Daycare Provider Appreciation Week" how many of my clients would take me seriously, especially if I were to let them know at the end of the previous week that leaving me food or consumable goods every day is perfectly acceptable since I just don't want any other "crap." I'm self employed and no one is going to do it for me, so I would just have to assert my importance and do it myself, I guess.
The idea actually nauseates me, because quite frankly, I'm happy if they pay me on time. I really am not seeking approval or 'appreciation.' Don't get me wrong, a sincere note of thanks goes a long, long way for me, but that isn't what motivates me....the almighty buck motivates me.
I am happy to write a note of thanks for the teacher who spent their personal time helping my kid pass Algebra or the school counselor who bends over backwards to find the best opportunities for graduating students . I usually give a good teacher a small gift of homemade jam or jelly at Christmas because I do know that consumables are nice and there are only so many mismatching coffee mugs one can actually use. And I DO appreciate their efforts.
But that's MY choice as well as the timing. I actually resent the idea of a whole week at the end of the school year, that basically tells me, "We put up with your brats for the last nine months and by golly, we want THANKS, because by the time the summer ends, you'll be BEGGING for them to come back."
And as long as we are "appreciating" why is it that MOTHERS only get one measly DAY for appreciation? Huh? How about Teacher's Appreciation Week morph into THEM giving PARENTS thanks for having kids so they can have a job in the first place? I think that's a GREAT idea because I need some appreciation for sending my kids into your tutelage for 9 months out of the year.
A Bucket O' Margarita and the tequila to add to it, would be a good place to start.